Category: 2017

Continuity and Change: Lessons From Immigrant Families

 by Celia Jaes Falicov, Ph.D. 

Mexican Family 2

Tamalada by Carmen Lomas Garza 

Immigrants face the complex reality of adapting to a new culture, while simultaneously having to cope with normal developmental changes. When immigrant families seek intervention, therapists may do well to focus on continuity as well as on change, i.e., accepting that some things should stay the way they are, at least in the present moment, even if they do not perfectly align with their new environment. This approach can create a reassuring familiarity, while giving clients the tools to cope with excessive anxiety and curb further disorganization that can result from the challenges presented by therapy itself.

The clinical vignettes that follow involve aspects of the therapy with two middle class families at early stages of cultural transition from Mexico:

Case 1: “Pretend you are staying; that will help you in case you go back.”

The first vignette is about a young Jewish couple, two years post emigrating from Mexico.  The wife is depressed, and reports that she misses her home, parents, and friends. The husband, an upwardly mobile entrepreneur, expresses irritation toward her emotional state, stating that she had acknowledged, when they got married, his plan to move to the United States in order to start a business. The wife acquiesces, but states that she did not know then that he was “asking (her) to live with half (her) heart here, the other half back where ‘there are mountains of love … wasting away’.” The husband, who is satisfied with the love he gets from his parents and friends during visits to Mexico, seems to believe that his wife phones her parents too much.  ( The wife’s behavior is consistent with what might be expected in her culture and gender. The strong, nurturant, and controlling attachment between parents and children, observed in families that combine Latin and Jewish cultures is often accentuated in Mexico. This is likely the result of their intense experience of the social and identity problems associated with being a non-assimilated ethnic and religious minority).

mexican couple

Amor Etorno by Simon Silva

I empathize with the wife, acknowledging how much she must miss her kin network, and how isolated she feels in the States with a young child and her husband as her only social network. I wonder aloud if she felt that she had the right to ask her husband to follow her back home this time, if things did not work out for her here. The husband begins to see that he needs to be more understanding of her love losses, and becomes less defensive of the choices they made. With these validations, her own ambivalence begins to emerge. Although she now misses the values and life style of her country and community, she recalls how she too, had wanted to leave Mexico. She had seen it as an opportunity to separate from her sometimes too controlling mother. She had felt that she could “grow more” in this country in the long run. Suddenly, she begins to weep, and says she misses her friends back home. She then reveals a recent embarrassing social disappointment. For the past year, she had been part of a mother – child playgroup. A month ago, she and one of the other mothers, all of whom are Jewish Mexican immigrants, had a nasty falling out. The other two women sided with the other mother and she had to leave the group, thus, eliminating an important support and modeling peer network. Since then, she had been thinking and talking a lot about returning. We talked about how they, husband and wife, could use what they had learned about her present needs from the playgroup experience. I also asked them if they could consider a postponement of a decision about staying or returning for a set period of time. This led to a conversation about how this temporary stability could be used, for example to acquire skills, learn English, develop a support group, improve their communication. It could be a period of building that would serve them well, whether they stayed here or went back. In the wife’s words, a chance to “grow more.” Pretending to stay did not mean they should not continue all the attachments as if they were returning too, such as frequent phone calls, etc. If after this time she still felt lonesome,  she could resume a more focused campaign to go back.

The oscillation between staying and returning, the comparison between the here and the there, the clinging to the old pieces of attachment even when one is trying to get away from them, is part and parcel of the process of migration. This is not pathological ambivalence, although it may be temporarily connected to symptoms such as anxiety or depression. It is important to accept the oscillation, the not knowing, the ambiguity, and the uncertainty, and to entertain different “as if” positions (as if you are staying, as if you are going back.) The decision cannot be rushed. It seems likely that a common outcome of migration is not an either/or choice. Developing a theme of increasing competence and life experience that enhance self and relationships anywhere, can serve to create temporary deadlines that act as stabilities. To know whether or not to buy a couch if you are not staying here may be a problem, but signing up for an English class should not be. Anything you can take with you goes.

Case 2: “It is okay to handle your home just the way your mother did.”

Mexican family

Mexican Family by Francis Luis Mora

A young Mexican Catholic couple were facing multiple life cycle transitions along with the many changes imposed by migration. Within a period of four years, they had married, had their first child, and migrated to San Diego, where had their second child right away. They were expecting a third child when they came to therapy. To  add to these rapid transitions, the husband’s company was growing exponentially, and it was possible that they would have to move to New York. They were both young and had lived with their parents up to the time of their marriage. Each was still struggling with developmental issues of separation/individuation from their families. The myriad accommodations of early marriage in a couple with an asymmetrical  style of communication were also part of the equation, e.g., she wanted to watch TV in bed, he wanted to read; he wanted to wake early in the morning, she wanted to sleep in, and so forth. They were also assuming  the huge physical and emotional responsibilities of entering parenthood for the third time while still taking care of two very young children, in a country foreign to them, and without extended family support. The wife was concerned about the arrival of the third child and how she was going to handle the different needs and schedules of all family members. She wanted to hire a second helper to care for the children, in addition to the one they hired to help with house-cleaning. The husband objected vehemently to this idea. The house was too small and he needed his privacy. He criticized the wife for worrying too much about keeping a perfectly clean house, preparing elaborate meals, and entertaining too lavishly, unlike her middle-class, American counterparts who did fine without outside help.

It did not seem to me that the husband was suggesting a more egalitarian division of labor in the home, since there was no mention of it. When I asked to clarify, it was obvious that both husband and wife adhered wholeheartedly to traditional roles and division of labor. As we explored together the meaning and actions attached to their role definitions, it emerged that they were both satisfied with their current arrangement. The husband’s interference had more to do with the circumstances of migration, i.e., living in a much smaller house and having a limited family and social life had made him more aware and controlling of household decisions than he would have been in Mexico. By stating his own strong opinions he was encroaching on his wife’s domain, while she was not in any way involved in decision-making in his domain. He was introducing asymmetry in a complimentary task performance arrangement. The wife resisted;  her sense of self was greatly derived from the cleanliness of her house, the variety of the meals she cooked and the exercise she did outside the home which she could only do with household help. She argued that if they had stayed in Mexico she would have even more help than she was asking for now; the matriarchs in her family ran their homes with the help of two maids, a cook, a gardener, and a chauffeur. Her husband was asking her to depart too drastically from the customs of her past. : Another important reason for her resistance involved their frequent visitors from Mexico; it was as matter of pride to show that her ways and her status had not changed. A home that recreated the cultural features of the homes she knew in Mexico was comforting and reassuring. “Is it old-fashioned,” she said, “to want to have a house JUST LIKE my mother’s?” She was holding on to her cultural and family identity. As she was separating from her parents and becoming a mother herself, she was embracing her mother’s skills at running her household. Under the guise of modernization, the husband was dislocating structural continuities at a time of massive changes. They were at a polarized and volatile impasse.

The therapeutic dilemma was that the immediate clinical goal was to support stability, particularly because the baby’s birth was approaching. The simplest and most fair avenue was to validate the wife’s decisions and her rights as a homemaker. Yet, I worried that in an attempt to secure family  stability, I might  downplay the possibility that both husband and wife were part of a prevailing cultural system that must regard the wife’s sphere as less worthy of respect if it can be so easily invaded by the husband’s views. Was the husband’s interference with the wife’s decisions an indication of a power imbalance that needed to be addressed at the risk of creating even more untimely stress? And wasn’t it important to understand the husband’s predicament in the new environment? I decided to share my dilemma with them. This generated a discussion from which it emerged that the sense of asymmetry came not from the distribution of tasks but from the husband treating the wife as a child in need of correction when in fact she was a 23 year old woman, mother, wife, and administrator of her household. It also became clear that a key balancing element in the traditional middle class household is the employment of maids. Siding with creating a stable environment to face multiple changes required that this family would not differ too much from a well-established cultural norm where the wife is in charge of the household but she decides how much and what type of help is needed. Empathy for the husband for the difficulties of migration led to an exploration of his affectional (family and friends) and physical losses (space) that he may have been avoiding by attempting to change his wife.

The two cases described here represent intersections and questions about issues of cultural transition. In each case, there are several variables to take into account: the individuals’ developmental stages and interpersonal dynamics, the developmental stage of the family cycle, the stage of acculturation, and the cultural preferences about family organization. They all offer possibilities and constraints to stability and change. The goal of therapy was not to protect the clients from change, but to protect them from the excessive anxiety, further polarization and disorganization that can result from adding challenges to their lives in the name of therapy.

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For more illustrations of case studies, see Falicov, C.J. Latino Families in Therapy  (2014) 2nd Ed. New York: Guilford Press.


Dr. Falicov is a Clinical Professor in the Department of Family Medicine and Public Health at UCSD where she directs mental health services for the Student Run Free Clinic Project. She is an author, trainer, and teacher of couple and family therapy, incorporating cultural perspectives.

President’s Corner

by Annette Conway, Psy.D., President of the San Diego Psychological Association

annetteWelcome to the first quarter of The San Diego Psychologist!  Our Editor, Dr. Gauri Savla, and the SDPA Board, continue to receive positive feedback from the membership about  the Newsletter’s transition from a hard copy to an online publication.  I want to personally thank Gauri for her hard work, skills, and professionalism in accomplishing this large task.  It takes many hours of creating content, laying out and formatting the articles, editing, and proofreading, before each issue of the Newsletter is published. I encourage you to leave your comments and questions directly on website, as well as to consider submitting your article. We had an unusually low response rate for the call for articles for this Winter 2017 issue. The Newsletter will only be a success with your continued collaboration and support.

As the new President of the SDPA, I would like to draw your attention to the new and exciting changes and activities taking place in our organization. You may have noticed that the SDPA Board has taken steps toward a structural reorganization over the past year.  Since July 1, 2016, we have been able to reduce administrative expenses by 25% in hiring contract office staff and volunteers. This restructuring has lessened the burden of fundraising, while continuing to offer SDPA members the programs and other benefits they deserve.  In addition, new leadership positions have been filled by students and early career psychologists on the Board and within our committees. Fifty percent of the 2017 Board is comprised of early career psychologists.

In other news, we have a new part time office assistant, Tami Magaro, who has a background in accounting, administration, and website design and management. We are excited to have her. The Public Education and Media Committee (PEM) is vetting the soon-to-be-hired publicist in order to “brand” the SDPA so that it is more visible within the community.  The Diversity and LGBTQ Committees continue their efforts in increasing diversity and inclusivity within the SDPA and the community at large. The Government Affairs Committee keeps members up-to-date on issues that are vital to the psychology.

We are also looking forward to hosting several upcoming events: The annual SDPA party is on April 29th, 2017 at the Karl Strauss Brewery in Sorrento Mesa. In our ongoing commitment to serve our members, SDPA has partnered with the San Diego Psychiatric Society, San Diego Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists, and the San Diego Chapter of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) for its second annual Critical Issues in Child and Adolescent Mental Health Conference. The conference will take place on March 11th, 2017. For more information and to register, visit  The Ethics Committee is offering a CE workshop titled “Being Prepared for the Unexpected: Practice and Ethics of Preparing Your Professional Will” on May 13th.

The Fall Conference this year will be held on October 14th, 2017; it is being spearheaded by the CE Committee Chair, Dr. Mary Mulvihill, who has has been exploring new ideas for presenting up-to-date information. The Fall issue of the Newsletter will focus on the theme of the conference, which will be announced in the next few months.

The current issue of the Newsletter focuses on Pain and our role as mental health professionals in treating clients with chronic pain. Chronic pain and the management of the pain is a complex problem, and the most common reason individuals seek medical advice. According to the APA, approximately 100 million adults in the United States suffer from chronic pain, which is the leading cause of disability. The psychological repercussions are numerous:  depression and anxiety, withdrawal from productive activities, social isolation, loss of self-esteem and purpose, loss of energy, the fear of being labeled “crazy” or that the pain is “all in my head,” enforced dependency, and the misuse and addiction to opioids. This issue addresses the pioneering and integrative approaches to the problem associated with improved functioning and decreased psychological distress. It is hopeful to read about the advancements and the “out-of-the-box” strategies that are being researched and introduced as effective coping tools for pain relief.

You are welcome to contact me with your questions and suggestions via email

( or via phone (858-342-0948).


Annette Conway, Psy.D.


by Gauri Savla, Ph.D.

Dear SDPA members and guest readers,

IMG_7209Welcome to the first issue of the 2017 San Diego Psychologist! We have a new President of
the SDPA, Annette Conway, Psy.D., and a new Board of Directors. I have thoroughly enjoyed working with Annette so far, and am looking forward to our continued collaboration. Before I introduce the current issue and people who contributed to it, I would like to thank Ellen Colangelo, Ph.D., the outgoing President for her grace, kindness, and wisdom. I am grateful to have had her guidance as I navigated my first year as the Editor of The San Diego Psychologist.

The theme of the Winter 2017 issue is Pain. When Annette and I discussed our plans for the Newsletter late last year, we mutually agreed that one of the topics of focus would be on the role of psychotherapy in treating patients with chronic pain. As psychotherapists, most of us have encountered patients with comorbid psychiatric disorders and chronic pain, with latter typically  preceding the former. As a geriatric psychologist in private practice, I find that 60% of my current patients suffer from chronic pain. Indeed, all four of the articles that make up this Pain issue mention that chronic pain affects more people in the United States than diabetes, heart disease, and cancer, combined. That is roughly about 100 million Americans and counting. Pain is all-consuming, intractable, and in most cases, invisible. It requires that the sufferer embrace a “new normal,” i.e., a life irrevocably changed by pain.


Self portrait by Frida Kahlo: “I am not sick. I am broken. But I am happy to be alive as long as I can paint.”

I was reading George Orwell’s “1984” recently and one quote from the book especially jumped out at me: “Of pain you could wish only one thing: that it should stop. Nothing in the world was so bad as physical pain. In the face of pain there are no heroes.” I found myself saying, “But there are heroes. I see some of them in my office every week.” (I also beg to disagree with Mr. Orwell about his statement on physical pain; we know the devastating effects of psychological pain well in our profession.) I doubt there is anyone who suffers from chronic pain who does not wish that their pain would be gone; however, there are people who live valued lives despite their pain. Even those who merely seek psychotherapy because they are tired of their narrow, pain-centered lives are heroes. It is our job, as psychotherapists, to help them separate the reality of their pain from suffering on account of it. As I write this, I am acutely aware of the recent influence of the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) bootcamp I attended a couple of weeks ago. I have been looking for new tools to help my clients with chronic conditions, and was intrigued by the ACT processes and principles and the evidence-based research supporting them. (I want to acknowledge that my curiosity about ACT was piqued as I edited the last issue of The San Diego Psychologist that focused on Mindfulness and Resilience; I want to sincerely thank Shoshana Shea and Jill Stoddard who both wrote excellent articles on ACT for the issue.)

…there are people who live valued lives despite their pain. Even those who merely seek psychotherapy because they are tired of their narrow, pain-centered lives are heroes. It is our job, as psychotherapists, to help them separate the reality of their pain from suffering on account of it.

As common as chronic pain is, we expected to receive an overwhelming response to our call for articles for this current issue. Unfortunately, we only received a small handful or articles, of which we selected two of the best ones. We solicited several more from experts in the field, from which we chose to publish two more articles. We reached out to physicians specializing in pain for their perspective on chronic pain management, but did not receive any positive responses.

So, four wonderful articles from five mental health professionals in San Diego make up the content of this Winter 2017 issue. Dr. Harpin and Ms. Gammon have written an excellent article giving a broad overview of the role of psychotherapy in pain management. It draws on Dr. Harpin’s long career in pain research and practice, and we are fortunate to learn from his experience and knowledge. Dr. Tayer, who has now become a regular contributor to the Newsletter, has written a powerful article about her own experience with working with pain patients. As usual, it is evident that she pours her heart into her work. Similarly, Ms. Chester has written a thoughtful and personal article about her unique approach to treating chronic pain, as she draws parallels to grief therapy and Maslow’s theory of Need Hierarchy. Finally, we invited Dr. Kangas to write about the use of medical marijuana by chronic pain patients, given its increasing popularity over opioid use in this population. Her concise article is well written and is full of great information. The art accompanying the articles and this editorial is by famous and less famous people who lived with chronic pain.

The resources and recommended readings suggested by the authors have been separately compiled into the Resources page. Please check them out if you are interested.

Our Spring 2017 issue, which we are hoping to publish by the end of May, will focus on Couples/Family Therapy with Diverse Clients. We would be grateful if those of you who have experience working with LGBTQIA, ethnic minority, or refugee families would consider contributing to the next issue. Submission guidelines may be found here.

Please share your feedback in the comments below, or email me at

Thank you for reading.


Psychological Treatments for Chronic Pain

by R. Edward Harpin, Ph.D. and Taryn Gammon, M.A., B.C.B.

Introduction: Chronic pain is defined as pain that persists beyond the expected time of healing (Loeser, 1991). The Institute of Medicine (2011) estimates that 100 million Americans experience some form of persistent pain with an estimated cost to society of $600 billion per year. Jensen and Turk (2014) note that the prevalence of chronic pain now exceeds the accumulated rate of heart disease, diabetes and cancer. Gatchel & Oordt (2003) point out that chronic pain has multifactorial etiology that includes biological, psychological, social, and cultural factors. There is a wide array of biomedical treatments for chronic pain. However, the efficacy rates for these treatments have not been satisfactory (Chou et al., 2009; Turk & Theodore, 2011; Institute of Medicine, 2011) leading patients and their health care providers to seek other forms of treatment.  This article will focus on psychological approaches to treating chronic pain.

Psychological factors: Psychological factors that may contribute to the experience of pain include mood, attention, quality of sleep, feelings of helplessness, depression, and  anxiety, as well as beliefs about causation and ability to cope with or manage pain (Gatchel, 2004; Jensen & Turk, 2014; Williams, 2010) . The presence of psychological factors in chronic pain does not rule out the presence of biomedical factors; patients often interpret the identification of psychological factors to mean that the health care provider thinks that their pain is “all in their head” or, even worse, that they are “crazy.” This may lead to wariness in trying psychological treatments that might be helpful in reducing and managing chronic pain.



Art by Thomas Gebauer: “The center of the painting depicts six figures, all having my face. Each one expressed the various aspects of pain: agony, rage, self-pity, depression, etc. …I share the plight of millions of chronic pain sufferers.” 

Theory: The neuromatrix theory of pain posits that the perception of painful stimuli does not result from the brain’s passive registration of tissue trauma, but from its active generation of subjective experiences through a network of neurons known as the neuromatrix (Melzack, 2001). May (2008) showed that changes in interacting areas of the brain that make up the “pain matrix” can differentiate chronic pain sufferers from healthy controls. The regions of the brain in this pain matrix include those identified in the affective, sensory, and cognitive elements of pain (Rainville et al., 1997; Luu & Posner, 2003; Jackson et al., 2006).  These brain differences in patients with chronic pain are not believed to play a causative role in the development of chronic pain, but rather are the result of the chronic pain. These brain changes may negatively affect not only the patient’s experience of the pain, but also the patient’s ability to manage and cope with the pain as well as participate effectively in activities of daily living.

Opioids: In an article discussing psychological treatments of chronic pain it is important to point out that patients with chronic pain are frequently treated with increasingly large doses of opioid pain medications such as hydrocodone and oxycodone for an extended period of time. These central nervous system depressant medications may interfere with cognitive functioning. They can also produce emotional effects such as irritability, which may interfere with social and occupational functioning. The development of opioid dependence is another risk of chronic opioid use.

Cognitive behavior therapy: A variety of psychological treatments are available for treating patients with chronic pain. One such treatment, with evidence-based support (Williams et al., 2012), is cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). CBT can target the cognitions, emotions and behaviors associated with chronic pain, such as, beliefs related to chronic pain that negatively affect a patient’s functioning. For example, the belief that, “My life is ruined because I can’t do what I used to do,” might be reframed to, “There are other activities I can do that will meet the goals I had for my former activities.” In a controlled study of CBT with chronic pain, Smeets et al. (2006) showed that change in pain beliefs was the mediator in improvements in pain intensity as well as disability status. The research has not shown strong evidence for long-term maintenance of the positive effects of treatment, suggesting that ongoing support might be helpful in maintaining the gains.

Acceptance and commitment therapy: Another psychological approach to treatment of chronic pain is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT for chronic pain is based on the theory that avoidance of pain and situations that might lead to pain results in lower quality of life, increased disability, and poor development of skills for coping with pain. Instead, ACT uses a mindfulness-based approach to teach acceptance of thoughts and feelings. A number of randomized controlled trials (RCTs) provide support for the effectiveness of ACT in coping with chronic pain (McCracken & Vowles, 2014).

Mindfulness-based stress reduction: Mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR) is another psychological intervention that has been used to treat chronic pain (Kabat-Zinn, 1982). Studies have shown improvements in pain ratings, other medical symptoms, psychological functioning, and decreased use of medical services. Cherkin et al. (2016) showed MBSR and CBT to be equally superior to Treatment as Usual (TAU) in treating chronic low back pain.

Interdisciplinary treatment: Due to the ever-increasing evidence for the multifactorial causation of chronic pain, interdisciplinary treatment is gaining increasing recognition as the gold standard for treating chronic pain (Institute of Medicine, 2011; Monson et al., 2012; Gatchel et al., 2014). Interdisciplinary treatment programs for chronic pain typically include medical monitoring, physical activity (e.g., physical therapy, exercise, yoga) and a psychological component (e.g., psychotherapy, biofeedback). Interdisciplinary programs commonly focus on teaching the patient pain self-management strategies, thereby reducing their dependence on health care providers.

Biofeedback: Biofeedback involves measuring a pain-related physiological parameter in a patient in “real time” and “feeding back” the measurement information to the patient and therapist via a computer with monitor. The purpose of the biofeedback is to facilitate the patient’s ability to influence the physiological parameter being measured. Patients can learn not only to influence their physiology, but also to identify cognitive and situational triggers for changes in physiology. These triggers can then be addressed by the therapist in psychotherapy. The most common biofeedback modalities used in chronic pain treatment are electromyography (EMG), thermal (blood vessel constriction: BVC) and heart rate variability (HRV).

EMG biofeedback treatment is used to treat the chronic muscle tension that leads to chronic muscle pain. Electrodes are placed on the skin in the area of the affected muscles. Patients are then taught how to influence the levels of muscle tension and are able monitor their progress via the computer. Patients also learn that their muscle tension fluctuates as they experience different emotions, providing direct evidence for the mind-body connection. Evidence for the efficacy of EMG biofeedback is strongest for temporomandibular joint disorder (TMD), tension headaches, and migraine headaches (Crider et al., 1999; Schwartz & Andrasik, 2003). Clinical observation of benefit supports the use of EMG biofeedback in the treatment of neck and back pain as well as fibromyalgia, though the research evidence isn’t strong (Mayo Clinic Health Letter, 2013).

Heart rate variability (HRV) biofeedback involves the use of paced breathing to increase self-regulation of the autonomic nervous system. Using external sensors, the patient’s cardiac and respiration rates are measured and this information is displayed for the therapist and patient via computer with monitor. The patient is then taught to breathe at a rate of ten or fewer breaths per minute in order to induce a state of autonomic “balance.” Autonomic balance can be described as a physiological state in which sympathetic activation is decreased and parasympathetic activation increased. It may be that this change in autonomic activity affects the previously mentioned “pain matrix” in the brain to reduce the patient’s experience of the pain.  Studies by Hallmann et al. (2011) and Schmidt et al. (2013), showed decreased levels of pain in patients with neck pain and TMD respectively.

Future directions: Although there have been many advances in the understanding and treatment of psychological components of chronic pain, there is still much work to be done, both in research and practice. A collaboration between researchers and clinicians is indeed warranted, in order to address the barriers to clinical improvement and to disseminate and apply the large body of research to  clinical practice in a more impactful manner. For example, the first author (Harpin) has 40 years of clinical experience in chronic pain and a growing body of research that suggests that the way individuals with chronic pain relate to themselves may impact their functional impairment and how they respond to treatment. Often people with chronic pain judge themselves harshly for their pain conditions, and/or refuse to prioritize their self-care because of long-held beliefs about putting the needs of others ahead of their own. A treatment program has been developed at the Sharp Hospital’s Pain Rehabilitation Program to address this need, incorporating evidence-based psychotherapeutic modalities as well as a novel focus on self-compassion.

One of the co-authors of this article (Gammon, 2016) conducted a controlled trial of the outpatient interdisciplinary self-compassion-based intervention at the Sharp Pain Program. One-hundred-twenty-six patients participated in one of two mindfulness- and acceptance- based interventions. 1) (TAU) comprising behavioral therapy, biofeedback, and physical therapy; or 2) Therapeutic Self-Care (TSC), a structured 12-week group intervention in which TAU modalities were integrated within a self-compassion framework. Self-compassion, pain and depression were measured at baseline, and post-intervention. Both interventions demonstrated comparable statistically significant reductions in depression. Significant improvements in self-compassion and pain were observed only in the TSC condition, although the between-group differences in these domains were not significant. Additionally, improvements in self-compassion in the TSC group were significantly related to improvements in depression and pain. The results of this study suggest that self-compassion may be an important treatment target for individuals with chronic pain. Gammon’s study reflects a much larger movement in the field to develop and assess integrative treatments for chronic pain that promote self-management of chronic pain and refine our understanding of which treatment approaches are most beneficial for which patients.

References and recommended readings may be found here. 


ed-2Dr Harpin received a B.A. from Boston College, an M.A. in counseling psychology from Stanford University, and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the State University of New York at Stony Brook. He has been a clinical psychologist, teacher, and researcher for 40 years and has worked at the Harvard Medical School/Massachusetts General Hospital, the University of Maryland Medical School, the University of California at Irvine Medical School, the California School of Professional Psychology, the Neurological Center for Headache and Pain (San Diego) and Sharp Memorial Hospital where he is the head psychologist in the Pain Rehabilitation Program at the Rehabilitation Center.

taryn-gammon-photoTaryn L. Gammon, MA, BCB, is a 6th year doctoral student at the California School of Professional Psychology in San Diego, pursuing clinical and research interests in health psychology. She is board certified in biofeedback, and is interested in the integration of psychophysiological interventions into cognitive-behavioral and acceptance-based treatments for individuals managing chronic pain and illness. She is a Trained Teacher of Mindful Self Compassion (MSC) through UCSD’s Mindfulness-based Professional Training Institute, and enjoys teaching MSC for community audiences as well as healthcare providers.

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The Clinical Experience of Treating Chronic Pain

by Wendy Tayer, Ph.D.

Pain is a multivariate, multifaceted syndrome that presents in complex ways in outpatient psychology settings. Pain can be the result of a variety of illnesses or injury, including (but not limited to) sports injuries, rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, chronic fatigue, spinal stenosis, automobile or workplace accidents, and so forth. Often, the psychotherapist’s office is the end of the line for pain patients after physicians and pain experts have not been able to alleviate or eliminate their pain through medical interventions. If you have ever treated patients with pain disorders, you know that they present with a range of emotional symptoms, including depression, anxiety, irritability, anger, resentment, guilt, sadness, and fear. These cases can be daunting and often challenge our strength, resilience, skill and boundaries as practitioners.

Pain affects more people in the United States than cancer, heart disease and diabetes combined. According to the Institute of Medicine of the National Academies, 100 million Americans live with chronic pain (The American Academy of Pain Medicine The economic burden of chronic pain is enormous:  the cost of treating pain and the loss of work productivity due to disability and sick days ranges from $560 billion to $635 billion. These numbers are astounding.


Art by Goldie Scnitzer: “The painting represents a pain day and my struggle to work it out. The white umbrella is faith and hope within the person, knowing tomorrow could be better.” 

The personal costs of living with pain are similarly staggering. In the behavioral medicine literature, chronic pain is defined as pain that is persistent and, at the same time, unpredictable. When I ask my pain patients if there is a pattern to their pain, they are hard-pressed to predict and anticipate their pain episodes; indeed, they often experience a sudden onset of pain during office visits, evidenced by their pain behaviors. The unpredictability of pain episodes interferes with the ability to plan one’s life activities. Unexpected losses can negatively affect finances, relationships, work productivity, entire careers, ability to ambulate and/or exercise, and cognitive function, among others. Often, one’s life focus shifts to the management of pain to the detriment of overall quality of life.

What is the physiology of a chronic pain episode? Pain signals start and continue to fire in the nervous system for weeks, months, even years. It is as if there is a malfunction in the body’s pain signaling system. Some people can tie their pain to an accident or disease process while others experience pain with no apparent physical cause. According to the CDC, back pain is the most common pain complaint followed by headache/migraine, neck pain, and facial pain. Most chronic pain patients have more than one pain complaint or pain site. Adults with low back pain tend to fare worse in terms of mental and physical health than those who do not have pain conditions. They report severely limited physical activity and tend to experience severe psychological distress to a much greater degree than people without low back pain. Particularly disturbing is the fact that 20% of Americans complain of disrupted sleep 3-4 nights a week due to pain or bodily discomfort. According to the National Health Interview Survey in 2009, women in general are higher pain symptom reporters than men, and they report headache and facial pain at twice the rate of men.

How do chronic pain patients present in therapy? There is no aspect of any of pain patients’ lives that is not affected by pain. They are often referred by the primary care providers, pain doctors or other specialists because they appear to be depressed, irritable, anxious and/or adapting poorly to their pain condition. Most pain patients who engage in outpatient psychotherapy are or have been high functioning, bright, successful adults with careers and families or relationships who have experienced a sudden, dramatic shift in their lives due to their pain; often, it causes them to give up their job, livelihood, social life, travel plans, love relationships, and recreational activities such as sports and physical fitness. The degree and multifaceted nature of loss for this population is often palpable and overwhelming. Out of nowhere they are forced to rethink their personal identity, purpose, goals, and future at times in their lives when they otherwise would be at their prime in terms of productivity and activity. They come in with detailed stories to tell, asking to be heard, validated, supported, helped to rebuild their lives and redevelop their self-perceptions. It is a daunting task from a clinician’s perspective.

What is my role as a psychologist? I work at the University of California, San Diego (UCSD), a giant healthcare system, where many of our patients are referred through the medical group. My background as a behavioral medicine psychologist has trained me to conceptualize chronic pain cases from a biopsychosocial perspective that is inherently holistic and multidimensional. Chronic pain patients often present to my office as the last resort after having exhausted standard pain treatment modalities; a subset of these patients are seeking therapy because a mental health visit has been deemed a condition of further treatment. In many cases, physicians sense that their patient has a psychological condition that is related to their pain syndrome; or they refer the patient for a psychological evaluation to aid in their decision-making about whether the patient is able to effectively manage or cope with a particular treatment. In some instances, physicians are not able to definitively diagnose the root cause of the pain and sometimes tell the patient and write in the chart that the patient has a psychosomatic disorder which necessitates a psychiatric evaluation. These patients, usually women, often leave these appointments in greater distress than when they arrived. I have seen many of these patients in my practice, who tend to be high functioning, insightful women who stay in therapy, are not interested in “secondary gain,” and have a rare genetic or autoimmune disorder that is difficult to diagnose or does not meet full criteria for a common autoimmune disease such as MS or lupus. I have challenged their physicians’ “patient-blaming” chart notes, and advocated for these patients in my own chart notes; I have also, on occasion, referred them to physicians and other allied health professionals who are empathic, open-minded, align with their patients and think broadly about their symptom presentations. Opioid dependence is another common occurrence with this population.

What does an initial visit with a chronic pain patient entail?

After obtaining written informed consent for psychotherapy, I typically ask for releases of information to collaborate with other treating practitioners as a team approach is optimal due to the complexity and variability of pain relief and treatment outcomes. (To that end, I also attend a monthly multidisciplinary pain management grand rounds meeting.) My working relationship with other treatment providers allows me to advocate for my patients who often are perceived as “difficult” or “demanding.”

My first visit with a chronic pain patient entails a complete biopsychosocial history which includes a standard intake as well as questions about medical/health history, coping style/history, disability status, use of substances and medications for pain management, pain rating scale, observation of pain behaviors, existence of caregivers, and often a multidimensional pain questionnaire such as the McGill Pain Questionnaire. I pay special attention to consistency of pain complaints with medical history and pain behavior, pain ratings, degree of cognitive flexibility, psychiatric history and response to the initial interview as predictors of patient prognosis and therapy outcome. I also educate the patient about psychotherapy as a process of self-exploration and reflection in addition to pain as a challenging life experience, normalizing the patient’s complaints.

What does psychotherapy entail?

Therapeutic alliance is crucial to successful psychotherapy outcomes in chronic pain patients, as are regular, weekly sessions and taking responsibility for the work of therapy. Pain patients often do not have partners or friends who understand their experience, or know how to respond or support them. A patient’s premorbid level of self-worth often has plummeted, and they need a safe place to vent and reality-test their current cognitive-emotional response to their disabling pain. The therapist is one of the most potent sources of support in these patients’ lives.

What treatment approaches are utilized and effective?

Empirical literature abounds with evidence supporting the efficacy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), operant conditioning, mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). CBT, owing to its long history, is supported by a large body of research; in particular, studies support the efficacy of problem-solving, therapeutic journaling, cognitive restructuring and operant conditioning for managing patient “catastrophizing” of their pain symptoms as well as pain-related fear responses to various stimuli. Although the efficacy of positive therapeutic alliance is well established in psychotherapy research in general, there are no studies examining this element specifically among chronic pain patients.

In my own practice, I strive to be present with my patients, and to create a non-judgmental and supportive space where they can safely express and work through their emotions and pain experience. My goal is to help my patients discover their own individual strengths and to thus empower those who feel greatly disempowered by their pain. If amenable, I practice meditation with them in order to facilitate acceptance and to reduce reactivity to their symptoms. Different approaches work for different patients; some merely want to vent and be heard, others want concrete coping strategies that they can practice at home. Regardless of technique, the ultimate goal is acceptance of this “new normal” and all that it entails; this process takes much time, commitment, patience, empathy, and attention. Therapy must be tailored to the individual patient, and usually is worthwhile and rewarding as most patients experience important changes in their expectations, view of themselves, ways of coping, reality testing, decision-making approaches, and reasoning abilities.

What are the common themes in therapy for chronic pain?

People with chronic pain struggle with what is often an invisible symptom or syndrome, and evident only via self-report and pain behaviors. A common theme among this population is their anguish about not being believed or acknowledged by others for having a pain condition. In fact, they frequently have to deal with insensitive comments such as “get over it,” “push through it,” “stop complaining,” or even are openly confronted for having a handicapped placard and have to defend themselves to righteous strangers. These patients need empathy, and often, therapists are the only ones who will provide it to them. Simple interactions with loved ones or acquaintances become quandaries that must be addressed in therapy. To a chronic pain patient, the question, “How are you?” presents quite a dilemma:  should he or she give a cursory response, i.e., “fine” or be honest about the fact that he/she feels miserable and/or exhausted?

Further, these patients are used to functioning independently and accomplishing a lot in a given day. They experience much difficulty lowering their expectations for their daily goals, pacing themselves because of their pain, learning to accomplish tasks in subsections due to limited periods of pain free functioning, not being able to make plans due to their pain and making decisions based solely on their pain level. Pain intensities vary for people; thus, on “good” days, people with pain tend to overexert because they desire a sense of normalcy and to meet their goals. However, as is often the case, they pay the price by finding themselves in increased pain, fatigue and anergia on the days that follow. This experience is demoralizing and literally, a painful reminder of their chronic condition.

Another common theme is the question of how one relates to one’s pain condition/experience. Specifically, we discuss whether an individual is defined by his/her pain or whether it is something they “have.” Exploration of this relationship can open pathways for more personal reflection and cognitive flexibility in the process of adaptation. These issues represent the most prevalent topics among this population group. There are other therapeutic topics which this article space does not allow but that are discussed readily in the pain treatment literature.

Addressing pain and its emotional repercussions is undoubtedly the main goal of therapy. However, also important is my role in mediating the relationship between my patients and their physicians. As I mentioned in an earlier section, chronic pain patients are often perceived as “difficult.” For physicians whose ultimate goal is to “cure” their patients, chronic pain patients are an enormous challenge and reminder of the limits of modern medicine. Besides, these patients can be demanding, needy and sometimes present with irritability, impatience and cognitive deficits or lapses. As part of a multidisciplinary treatment team, my goal is to facilitate fruitful communication between my patients and their treatment providers. To that end, therapy can also involve teaching enhanced appointment preparation strategies (such as writing a list of questions, taking notes, affect and body language coaching, etc.) to patients so that they can communicate more effectively with their doctors and develop functional, goal-oriented working relationships with them.

What is the typical course of therapy? Treatment can range from participation in an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) or a six-week structured pain treatment group to years of individual psychotherapy, depending on many factors. In my experience, the need to be validated and understood is paramount in this population; also important, is the desire for hope and a functional future for these patients. Working with this population has challenged me to expand my repertoire of skills to help my patients, and also regularly tests my clinical skill set. I find that I am more present and compassionate as a result of my years of experience with chronic pain patients. It is ultimately humbling to know that as a clinician and an empathic human being, I have played such an important role in my patients’ lives.


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Dr. Wendy Tayer is a Health Sciences Assistant Clinical Professor in the UCSD Department of Psychiatry. She is a health psychologist and a clinical supervisor, and her clinical practice specializes in gerontology, behavioral medicine and student health.




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Medical Marijuana for Pain Management

by Julie Kangas, Ph.D.

The American Academy of Pain Medicine can trace back the use of cannabis as a treatment of pain for longer than recorded history.  In 1996, California became the first state to legalize medical marijuana, but national legal prohibitions and the complex pharmacology of cannabis have slowed the progression of empirical evidence and standardization for clinical use. Despite the delays to research, there is evidence to suggest that 10-15% of people who attend treatment at a chronic pain clinic also use marijuana as part of their pain management.  The number of patients using marijuana for pain grows when we consider how common it is for patients to self-medicate or decline to report use.  In this article, I will answer common questions regarding the utilization of cannabis for pain management.

How does it work?

One difficulty in studying and standardizing cannabis for medical use is that there are more than 60 pharmacologically active cannabinoids in marijuana; therefore the exact mechanisms of its efficacy are still unclear. These many cannabinoids activate receptors in the brain, spinal cord, peripheral nerves, and immune system, explaining why it can be effective in treating both pain and inflammation. Different active components are beneficial for different types of symptoms. The two primary cannabinoids are tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) and cannabidiol. The THC component can produce euphoria and psychosis. Cannabidiol is not psychoactive, but it may have antianxiety and antipsychotic effects.  This ratio between THC and cannabidiol is important for patients to know, and marijuana types are specifically engineered to hold different ratios.


Art by Jen Watson: “I have strong feelings of hate towards my body. But in this moment I tried to think of it as beautiful and this is the image I created.” 

What are the benefits of marijuana over other medications?

While marijuana does have side effects (discussed below) it can be used beneficially to reduce the more dangerous side effects of other medications for pain management.  There is currently a national epidemic of opioid abuse, and patients may choose to use cannabis insteadof opioids or in addition to opioids. Cannabinoids do not bind to opioid receptors, so concurrent use is a safe option. Evidence suggests that using cannabis in addition to prescribed opioids can prevent tolerance and withdrawal from opioids as well as enhancing the effectiveness of both therapies.  Even for milder pain or in cases where opioids are not prescribed, cannabis can replace non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) in order to avoid the negative side effects of gastrointestinal ulceration and bleeding.

What is the evidence of its efficacy?

Cannabis has been seen to be effective to varying degrees for several types of chronic pain. For example, neuropathic pain is typically a difficult kind of pain to treat because it is caused by damage to the somatosensory nervous system. Neuropathic pain is often compared to a dysfunctional alarm system. Where other pain would be compared to a fire alarm that is triggered by an actual fire that needs to be addressed, neuropathic pain is an unhelpful and annoying alarm that you can’t turn off.  Neuropathic pain is thought to be at least partially caused by a dysregulation of the body’s endocannabinoid system, explaining why marijuana is seen to be a particularly effective treatment.

There is also evidence of cannabis being effective for chronic pain resulting from multiple sclerosis and paraplegia.  Additionally, the many effects of cannabis beyond pain relief (e.g., euphoria, increased appetite) are especially beneficial for people with complex disorders such as AIDS or cancer.  Musculoskeletal pain and migraine pain are less researched, but there is evidence that cannabis can influence the pain pathways of those disorders by reducing hyperalgesia, which is heightened pain sensitivity.

How can my patients use it in a safe and legal way?

Unfortunately there are only two FDA–approved, synthetic cannabinoids available in the U.S., dronabinol and nabilone, and these are approved only for reducing nausea.  The benefit of an FDA-approved cannabinoid is that the doses are highly standardized and well understood. Most patients use botanical, rather than synthetic, cannabinoids for chronic pain, meaning there could be variability in the dosing and unknown side effects due the large number of pharmacologically active components.  There are some preparations of cannabinoids available that are recommended for particular types of pain, e.g., for pain symptoms of multiple sclerosis, the American Academy of Neurology recommends off-label use of dronabinol (the FDA-approved preparation mentioned above) and nabiximols, a spray containing both THC and cannabidiol. Patients and providers can research the best types of cannabis for specific pain conditions.

Medical marijuana cards are available to patients with a doctor’s recommendation for medical use, but because recreational use of marijuana became legal in the November 2016 election, patients may choose to use marijuana without obtaining a card. Benefits of having a card include looser restrictions on marijuana possession (e.g., 1 oz. in possession for recreational users vs. 8 oz. for card holders).

Unlike with alcohol, there is no standardized way of defining when someone is capable of driving after use of marijuana. A DUI can still be issued to someone who used marijuana before driving, if they do not demonstrate an “ability to drive with the caution characteristic of a sober person of ordinary prudence under the same or similar circumstances.” Therefore a combination of subjective and objective data is taken into account, including the observed driving pattern, performance on behavioral sobriety tests, physical appearance, and a blood test confirmation of marijuana use.

What are the dangers, and how can I minimize risk?

It is important to note that many common mental health diagnoses are listed as contraindications to the use of marijuana for pain management in formal medical recommendations (e.g., see JAMA review in Recommended Reading) because “heavy” use of cannabis is seen to be related to future onset of depressive episodes, manic episodes, and psychosis. There are extreme limitations of the research, however, with differing definitions of what is considered “heavy use” and without randomized controlled trials that are able to comment on causation.  Currently, all evidence is merely associations between cannabis use and poor mental health outcomes.  The strongest caution is against the use of cannabis (particularly with high THC) for people with a strong genetic risk for psychosis.

According to the DSM-5, symptoms of cannabis intoxication include tachycardia, dry mouth, elevated appetite, red eyes and unusual fluid accumulation in the eyelids, and psychological and behavioral impairments, which can include anxiety and paranoia, along with hallucinations.  Contrary to some patients’ opinions/perceptions, marijuana is now widely accepted as addictive and has distinct patterns of withdrawal, with symptoms including: irritability, anger, sleep difficulty, anxiety, depressed mood, restlessness, headaches, fever, chills, sweating and abdominal pain.  Of note, many patients see cannabis as beneficial for their sleep because it can be sedating immediately following use, however it is important to educate patients with sleep problems that insomnia is a primary symptom of withdrawal, and there is evidence that cannabis changes sleep architecture, reducing REM sleep and increasing sleep onset latency.

Recommended for Further Reading

California Medical Association: Physician Recommendation of Medical Cannabis

Hill, K. P. (2015). Medical marijuana for treatment of chronic pain and other medical and psychiatric problems: A clinical review. JAMA, 313(24), 2474-2483.



Dr. Julie Kangas is a Post-Doctoral Fellow at UCSD/San Diego VA. She is also an adjunct professor at Point Loma Nazarene University.  Her clinical expertise has been in behavioral medicine and treatment of mood disorders.



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Treating Chronic Pain Patients Through a Grief Perspective

by Tracey Chester, L.M.F.T.

The American Academy of Pain Management estimates that approximately 100 million Americans are living with pain today. That number astonishingly exceeds the number of people suffering from diabetes, heart disease, and cancer, combined.   Pain-management specialists are becoming increasingly aware that chronic pain is associated with depression and other mood disorders (in fact, 77% of pain patients report feeling depressed). This has resulted in more psychotherapy referrals of patients with co-morbid chronic pain and mood disorders.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is currently considered to be the standard of care for psychotherapy approaches to pain management; however, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) has been receiving more attention as its effectiveness has been consistently demonstrated in clinical trials. In my own practice, I use both CBT and ACT with patients suffering from chronic pain, with varying degrees of success. Indeed, many of my patients have completed a 12-week CBT or ACT pain management group program prior to beginning individual therapy. Both modalities teach useful tools, but in my clinical experience, I have found that a successful outcome is limited unless the patient has been allowed to grieve the loss of his or her pre-pain functioning.  


Art by Dana Harrell-Sanders: “My painting represents those that suffer from fibromyalgia/chronic fatigure syndrome. A person suffering with these disorders seem so healthy on the outside that others have a hard time perceiving what’s going on inside.”

How can one change in a 12-week group program into a person who is able to adapt to the new experience of being unable to function in various aspects of life due to their pain?  Compounded by the invisibility of their pain (many patients present visibly as healthy), they are often led by these treatments to believe they are suffering because of their negative thoughts.  Indeed, recent research suggests that the efficacy of CBT is limited to improvement in mood immediately following treatment, but not in long-term pain and functional status. I propose that regardless of treatment modality, allowing the patient to grieve for the loss of their pre-pain self is essential for the ultimate success of that treatment. Guiding a patient through this grief is especially important when he or she understands for the first time that the acute pain they have been experiencing is now their new reality; it is now considered chronic pain. They have exhausted all means for a “cure,” i.,e., they have failed multiple medication trials, undergone surgery, and have tried complimentary medicine without success. They have now entered a new stage in their treatment process: pain management. Acceptance of this stage requires giving up hope of a pain-free existence, and can be accompanied feelings of despair, hopelessness, anxiety, and/or anger.  It is at this stage that they are referred to or seek help from mental health professionals.

Working with pain patients is personal to me; I am a chronic pain patient myself. My personal and professional experiences with pain management, along with my background as a grief counselor for the erstwhile San Diego Hospice and Elizabeth Hospice for five years have given me a unique perspective on pain. I have noted the striking similarities between losing a loved one and losing one’s health to chronic pain. For example, the majority of people are shocked by the death of a loved one even when the latter has been ill for a long time; similarly, a person who has lived with pain for many years reacts with shock when he or she realizes that the pain will never completely go away. Viewing chronic pain it in this light can offer insight into what patients are experiencing. Furthermore, the invisibility and misunderstanding of their condition by friends, families and co-workers can greatly compound the feelings of grief.

The view of grieving put forth by J. Worden (Worden, 1991; 2011) is widely accepted by experts in grief counseling as the most comprehensive description of the grieving process, often referred to as Worden’s Tasks of Mourning. The process includes (1) an acceptance of the reality of the loss, (2) experiencing the pain of grief, (3) adjusting to the environment with the deceased missing, and (4) withdrawing emotional energy and reinvesting it in other relationships. The most widely cited model of “the stages of mourning” is that proposed by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, wherein a person sequentially experiences denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, in that order. Kubler-Ross’s model seems to more accurately describe the experience of patients with terminal illness rather than mourning. An important distinction in Worden’s tasks of mourning and the Kubler-Ross model is that the former focuses on simultaneous processes while the latter describes sequential processes.   Both models can be useful in guiding a pain patient process his or her emotions regarding chronic pain.

My proposed approach also takes into account Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (Maslow, 1971; starting with basic physiological needs, followed by the need for safety, love/belonging, esteem, and self-actualization). It helps to understand many of the hurdles chronic pain patients have to overcome. How do they become their best selves? Most people struggle with this, without the basic health of body being compromised. For example, chronic pain can lead to loss of employment; this complicates the grieving process significantly, making it difficult to move forward and adapt to the new reality. Patients may suddenly find themselves struggling with safety (security of body, of employment, of resources, of the family, of health, of property).  When safety comes up over and over through treatment, it can sabotage movement in other areas of life; love/belonging, esteem, and finally self-actualization.

Adapting the tasks of grieving to the experience of chronic pain:

My own approach to pain management combines aspects of Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, a version of Kubler-Ross’s model adapted to the grief of chronic pain (Martin, J., 2015), and “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. I have found that presenting these “stages” to patients helps normalize their experience and works as a guide for treatment. I present the following summary to my patients:

  1. Accepting the reality of the loss: What is acceptance of chronic pain? Acceptance can be defined as a way of addressing an unchangeable situation or a life experience. It is not the same as defeat, helplessness, quitting, or resigning to a life of unhappiness, struggle, or misery. Accepting that you have pain (or that your pain is true and believable) is different than giving up all hope. Denying that your pain is not chronic may delay the grieving process, and in turn, delay adapting to this new life experience.
  1. Experiencing the pain of the loss: Anger is a necessary stage in the healing process. Feelings of anger may seem endless, but they will begin to subside and make way for healing.  Your anger may extend to your doctors, family, friends and loved ones. Thoughts such as, “This isn’t fair! I didn’t do anything to deserve this!” or “Just give me something that will make me feel better!” are common. Similarly, feelings of emptiness and grief are profound and seemingly endless; while sadness is a normal response to a life-altering situation, with chronic pain patients, it commonly turns into clinical depression. There is research indicating that depression that was pre-existing before the occurrence of a stressful event, or brought on by the onset of the event yields similar functional changes to the human brain. Furthermore, functional neuroimaging studies have demonstrated that brain regions implicated in chronic pain are the same as the ones implicated in depression. As with depression, anxiety about the future in terms of financial security, medical bills, social expectation, etc. can be common. Professional help in the form of individual or group therapy, or even a peer-led support group can be a helpful way to cope with these feelings.
  1. Adjusting to a life with chronic pain: Having a chronic condition is almost always accompanied by loss.  Learning coping skills to manage the pain can help rebuild self-esteem and relationships. ACT can help with finding a way to live a fuller life despite the pain. CBT can help with restructuring negative thoughts to adaptive thoughts, .e.g., it can help eliminate thoughts that begin with “never,” “should,” or “always”. This stage corresponds with Maslow’s Esteem and Love/Belonging.
  1. Moving Forward: The final stage of adapting to a new life consists of reevaluating short and long term goals and what that means for the future. This involves setting daily goals that are realistic and redefining   career and relationship goals so they are sustainable. For example, having a profession that is physically demanding will need to be replaced by one that is less so, and accommodates one’s pain. Similarly, relationship roles and functions may need to be redefined, i.e., being a husband/wife/daughter/mother may look different than before the onset of the pain. Thus, defining what one can do versus cannot do can go a long way toward helping  patients with chronic pain see the pain as only one aspect of a life that has meaning and purpose. This stage, thus, corresponds to Maslow’s hierarchy of Self-Actualization.  Self-Actualization is not easily attainable by anybody, but is especially by those with issues of safety/security. Chronic pain sufferers often have health issues, and can also have uncertain job or financial security. Refocusing one’s energy from the losses to what is still possible can help them move toward a fuller life.


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traceychesterTracey Chester is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT 93387)  who specializes in chronic pain, mood disorders and grief.  Tracey is also a chronic pain patient herself, so she knows what it is like to lead a fulfilling life despite having pain. Tracey uses non-judgmental interpersonal therapy, attachment theory, evolutionary psychology, and cognitive tools to treat her patients. Tracey strongly believes in and employs collaboration with medical providers of pain patients to enhance their treatment. She also believes support is vital for family members of chronic pain patients and integrates her training in Marriage and Family theoretical models to address family interactions and cultural influences on chronic pain treatment.

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Resources for Psychotherapists and Patients from Dr. Tayer:

Dahl, J. (2006, May 3). Living Beyond Your Pain: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Ease Chronic Pain. New Harbinger Publications

Burch, V. & Penman, D. (2015, January 6). You Are Not Your Pain. Flatiron Books

Gardner-Nix, J. & Kabat-Zinn, J. (2009, February 2). The Mindfulness Solution to Pain. New Harbinger Publications.

UCSD Center for Mindfulness web page which lists courses and offers free guided meditations

Chronic Pain Treatment Program and IOP at UC San Diego Health:

National Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain Association:

U.S. Pain Foundation:

Local pain support groups and informational resources can also be found at local chapter websites or offices for The Arthritis Foundation, The Lupus Foundation of American and The American Cancer Society. Also check local hospitals for patient support programs.

Recommended Readings from Dr. Harpin and Ms. Gammon:

Dahl, J., Luciano, C., & Wilson, K. G. (2005). Acceptance and commitment therapy for chronic pain. New Harbinger Publications.

Flor, H.  & Turk, D. C. (2011). Chronic Pain: An Integrated Biobehavioral Approach. Seattle: IASP Press.

Gardner-Nix, J., & Costin-Hall, L. (2009). The mindfulness solution to pain: Step-by-step techniques for chronic pain management. New Harbinger Publications

Gatchel,  R. J. (2005).  Clinical Essentials of Pain Management. Washington D.C.: APA Books

Neff, K. (2011). Self-Compassion. New York: HarperCollins

Recommended Readings from Dr. Kangas:

California Medical Association: Physician Recommendation of Medical Cannabis

Hill, K. P. (2015). Medical marijuana for treatment of chronic pain and other medical and psychiatric problems: A clinical review. JAMA, 313(24), 2474-2483.

Additional Resources:

Association for Contextual Behavior Science

McGill Pain Questionnaire